open letter

Open Letter to Whoever is putting Sadie Robertson and Kylie Jenner at War:



I read a post somewhere on the internet last night. I got sucked into it even though I do not keep up with either teen. I didn’t see the point of the post and was left feeling like a teen myself. I was being pressured into not liking someone. I don’t like when someone goes out of their way to convince you not to like someone. Especially since I am supposed to be an adult.

There is an obviously difference between the two teens. Everyone can see it. However, because they are just 17 years old, they are merely regurgitating whatever they have been witness to and experienced in their lives thus far. Sadie, raised in a strong Christian home, based their lives around the Word of God. Kylie, raised in a strong Worldly home, based their lives around [presumably] money and fame. I can tell you the 17 year old me is different from me at 29. Things I believed about myself, the world and God have morphed into who I consider myself right now. Maybe I was right in the middle of these two teens, if there were a spectrum. I believed in God and prayed, but found myself doing what I wanted to do. What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there’s nothing new under the sun. Ecclesiastes 1:9

Let us see who they might become.

Comparing two teens, demonizing one and honoring the other is not what our young girls need. As the writer of those such postings, your influence only goes keyboard deep. Where are you when these teen girls are sucking their lips through a plastic bottle? Where are you when these teens [good Bible-study] girls are secretly living in sin? How are you helping? As a teen, you can’t help but compare yourself to others. In fact, as an adult it is hard not to. I fight moments each day and have to remind myself I Am Who God Says I Am.


The contradictory message you communicate through your post is just sad. You have such disgust for KJ, but include the very proactive, sexy photos of her that you claim to be inappropriate and disgusting. The last thing a teen girl needs to hear is that her body is disgusting. In fact, she is a very beautiful girl, before and after plastic surgery. And so is SR. They both possess something that girls and women envy-outward beauty. I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I notice when another women is beautiful, or seemingly more beautiful than me. Your article does not do what you want it to do. It does not make me pit one of those two girls against the other. It makes me hurt. Once again, the lie that one is better than the other presents itself. Once again, you are putting teen girls (vulnerable to suggestion) in a situation they cannot win. Appearing wholesome on the outside will not work if you do not feel wholesome on the inside. There are many girls trying desperately to fill their empty hearts with guys, makeup, clothes, photo likes and more. Their souls thirst for MORE, for something that is everlasting. But they do not know what it is or how to get it. They think it costs. The price is sex, material things, big lips. As the writer that is putting SR on a pedestal, claiming that she is the perfect example of a Proverbs 31 women, you have failed to share the Gospel with your audience! Failed to offer thee solution! Failed to introduce Jesus to your readers! Only Jesus can fill those empty places in a young girl’s heart. It saddens me that you chose to miss the opportunity to offer [even at least to one] the option of Salvation.

You failed to mention:

Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation. 2 Corinthians 5:17-18

You and I may get to Heaven and be surprised when we see who’s there and who’s Not. Some of those we thought would make it, wont. And some of the most unlikely, will.

And for that I do not want to be someone that kicks someone out of the way just to make sure I have a seat for me.

And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and surely, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 29:19


For anyone desiring change.
If you are longing for something more, something everlasting. This is the time to do so. If you pray this prayer, you are opening the door that God is knocking on right now. He has come for you, You are HIS and He is Yours. Open your heart and pray:

God, I know that I have sinned against you. Forgive me for my sins. I want to know You and want you to know me. Come into you my life, come into my heart. Change me. Be the Lord of my life. I surrender my life to you. Take me and make me brand new. In Jesus name, Amen.

If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. Romans 10:9-10

Continue to talk to God as if he were right there in the room with you. Talk to him like you would talk to a friend. Pray. Read your Bible, find a Bible, and find one online, a Bible app. Find like-minded people. A church, a small group, a Bible study. Don’t allow yourself to be alone and risk the enemy attacking you while you are alone. It won’t always be easy but it will be worth it. Nothing here on earth is worth losing your soul over.

For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. “For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? “For the Son of Man is going to come in the glory of His Father with His angels, and will judge all people according to their deeds.  Matthew 16:27


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Whats So Wrong With Being Single?

Today it’s a regular Monday in April. Cloudy and rainy here in Midwestern USA. I don’t watch weather forecasts but prefer to take the day as is. I prefer to not stress myself over things I do not control. Adding information such as, “partly sunny” and “30% chance of rain” does not serve my over-thinking brain well.

I actively practice controlling my thoughts. Not every thought I think should be surfed on. Some lead to old ways of thinking, some lead to negative self-talk, some lead to worry. Some of my thoughts come from God. Like, when I get married I’d like to move to a smaller community outside of my main city. If and when I have children, I’d like to home-school them for a while. I’ve had these thoughts come to me that I would never think on my own. In fact, they sound a lot like things I would scoff at. I measure them based on a few key ideas.

*Is it what God would say?
*Can it be rooted in Scripture?
*Does it make sense?
*Is it healthy for me? Does it create peace and joy?

If I’m thinking something that does not fit in with what God says, is not found in God’s Word, it doesn’t make sense, and is not healthy…..then I sever the thoughts from my heart and mind.

One thought (question) that keeps reoccurring is, What’s So Wrong With Being Single?


I have been Single since May 2012. I’m very much used to being single, relationships are what is foreign to me. My last relationship was almost 3 years ago. Though there was a ‘situationship’ (please see The Purge, and Is It Official?) that became active again after that relationship ended, it’s been almost 2 years since I have seen that person. Though text messages still sporadically surfaced, nothing significant ever materialized. And that, has described my romantic life (HA!) for the past 3 years.

On Thursday, I found myself having to kill an hour of time before meeting with a friend. I had chosen to pop into a Mexican-themed restaurant to grab a bite to eat near our meeting location. After parking and deciding that crossing the busier street was just going to be too much effort, I looked around and spotted a seafood restaurant. All my life I have claimed to hate seafood. However, I have learned to enjoy shrimp, sushi, calamari, and the random main dish of some type of fish another good friend has cooked for me. I used my phone to look at the restaurant’s menu just to confirm the pull I was feeling. They had a happy hour menu which means cheaper items and smaller portions. I spotted the words Fish Taco. Hmm, I always hear about fish tacos. In movies like I Love You, Man.


“beer battered or blackened white fish, slaw, pineapple pico de gallo, avocado and charred jalapeño crema 3.5”
Pineapple, avocado, jalapeno. Decision made. I walked in and was sat at a booth. I ordered the fish taco and it was delicious.

I tell you all this in detail because I don’t do spontaneous too much. I had originally picked the Mexican place because I have been there multiple times, and I know what to expect. I was proud of myself to have done something I hadn’t even thought about. There is more to what I felt in those moments of a solitary disposition. I felt content. I felt relaxed. I felt pleased with myself. I was enjoying the time I was spending with me.

On Friday, I met my family at the zoo. They were already inside and so I paid for my own ticket in. We visited a few attractions together but they were on a time crunch so they had to leave after a while. I decided to stay a bit longer. I have had thoughts about going to the zoo by myself, but would never follow through. I found it amusing that the pull had its way anyway. I visited the Kingdom of the Night, Aquarium and Butterfly Exhibit. I walked at my own pace, I stopped and watched animals for however long I wanted. There was no pressure to hurry along or to stay with the group. It was just me, and I enjoyed it. I had a great time with me.

So I ask, Whats So Wrong With Being Single? What is so wrong with you that you don’t want to be alone with you? I can honestly say that I think I have fallen in love with myself. All my curves and all my edges, All my perfect imperfections. I have so much peace and joy residing in me. I’m casting out fear daily. I love me so I’m not depending on anyone else to need to love me. I am who my Creator says I am.

See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. –Isaiah 49:16

When you truly love yourself, and know that you know that you know that God does Love *YOU*, you won’t need anyone else to love/like/want you.


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